We assume others show love the same way we do — and if they don’t, we worry it’s not there.

(via paulwes)

Everyone has their own love language. That’s one of the most important lessons I’ve ever learned.

(via pleasedontcallmelhead)

I have to remind myself of this constantly.

(via dxglitter)

(abeardedprincessから)

nostalgiaultra:

djscrewatarave1998funeralcrunk:

harrystylesdildo:

Volunteering at a soup kitchen is one of the least productive things you can do to change the world. Art can inspire people and motivate them. Food is important, yes, but you aren’t changing that person’s life. 

whoever wrote this post has definitely never been hungry

I remember one christmas we were short on money so my brother just drew us some pictures of mashed potato it was poppin!!! We ate the pencils too!!!

(juxtapirationから)

joobr:

chrissipumpkin:

chelseakenna:

This is an important read for freelancers. I’ve fallen into this trap a LOT lately and it has affected my health.
I’ve since made it a goal to better balance work with the rest of my life. You can’t be productive unless you take care of yourself first.
cuhelski:

saetje-reference:

juliedillon:

eskiworks:

The Workaholic Pedestal
We freelancers have a tendency to never truly be away from our work, regardless of the time or day of the week.  Especially if like me, your work station is in your home.  We work long hours and dedicate ourselves fully to whatever project we have at hand.  We loose sleep, skip social gatherings, eat whatever is quick and easy so we can get back to work. I have noticed that there is a sense of pride in general among freelancers that we are so in love with our work that we can dedicate ourselves this way.  Passion for your chosen profession is definitely a plus!
However, I have also observed a downside to this part of freelancing.  That dedication can cross the line into an unhealthy workaholic lifestyle, and other freelancers actually encourage it.  There is an underlying unspoken rule in freelancer culture that if you’re not working, you’re slacking.  I’ve seen other freelancers take subtle stabs at their peers for taking time off to see family, to tend to daily life, or to just have a day (or three) to simply BREATHE and do something other than art. Doing things like comparing your work load with others’ work load, making yourself out to be the harder working one.  Referring to things like showering, cooking, and cleaning as “free time” or “vacation”.  It creates or adds to guilt surrounding work, which is really not a nice thing to do to your friends and peers. 
The disclaimer here is that clearly not every freelancer does this, and I think those that do are not being purposefully malicious, so please don’t misread this as an attack.  I’m guilty of playing into this myself, we are just falling into a part of the starving artist stereotype;  The idea that your chosen craft/art must encompass ALL of your being, every day and every moment for you to truly be passionate about it. 
The truth is, there IS life outside of art and work, and it’s not a contest. We are living beings that must eat and sleep, and we are social animals that must have a connection with others.  So not only do we HAVE to do things other than art, but it’s also ok to spend time doing other things that make you happy.  It doesn’t mean you are less passionate about your work, or that other artists who spend more time on theirs love it more.
And yes, there are deadlines we must work under.  But none of us want to be starving artists. None of us enjoy loosing sleep, eating crappy or skipping meals, working our fingers to the bone, letting friendships fall apart…  These are not good things.  You aren’t a cooler or more a passionate artist for making those sacrifices.  So I think instead of putting that lifestyle on a pedestal, we should be encouraging one another to take time to care for ourselves, and to have a life outside of their work. Just like anyone else doing any other kind of work.  =)

YES. Thank you. It makes me really uncomfortable when I hear professionals saying things like “if you are not drawing 24/7 you’ll never make it”, implying that having outside interests or taking care of yourself means you will fail. You undoubtedly need to be dedicated and focused to succeed as a freelancer, but what is the point of having the so-called freedom that freelancing is supposed to provide you if you can’t even leave your desk every once in a while? Exercise, get outside, socialize, have other hobbies. I’ve found I’m more productive and happier and healthier and more passionate about my work and my career when I take time off, every day, to get away from work for a little while. Building a career is important and rewarding, but your life is not comprised solely of the amount of work you are able do. Your life is not defined solely by how many hours you clock at your work desk. 

This mindset is rampant throughout college and even in the professional studio environments too. It’s so sad, I’ve fallen Ill because of it and still have a hard time breaking away. I see many of my peers ruining their bodies and minds too to live up to an ideal of working 24/7.

It feels really relieving to see I’m not alone in this. The guilt of not always feeling inspired. The frenzy of not wanting to let anyone down (especially yourself) can completely break you down. I’ve been beyond fortunate to have some of the most understanding and compassionate bosses ever, so the idea of the letting them is crushing. One of the most valuable things I’ve learned since I started freelancing is to take time for yourself when you need it. Not “when I’m done with this project in 2 months I’ll relax.” Take care of yourselves artist friends. <3


Actual free time (not just eating or showering time) is so important. You’ll be able to work longer and harder if you take frequent breaks.

YOU’RE AN IMPOSTER IF YOU AREN’T ALWAYS DRAWING is such a toxic idea that so many people parrot!!! it’s like running into a really horrible ex-boyfriend EVERYWHERE and you wanna warn people he’s like a cannibalistic harbinger of darkness who decorates his living room with cursed skulls BUT THEY DON’T LISTEN because all the professionals in your chosen field are BEST FRIENDS WITH HIM. constant output is a brutal standard to hold yourself to whether or not you ever manage to meet it! it makes the burnout and anxiety over being burnt out that much worse. it’ll keep you from internalizing success. this is seriously like advice from the mangoat’s big book of handy ways to perpetuate misery.
don’t listen to everything someone says just because they’re a good artist. it doesn’t mean they’ve got their shit together—a person’s lifestyle isn’t always the root of their success and for all you know they’re a broken gollum who lives in a hollowed out log eating nut mites and komodo meat. hard work is important but it’s not the only variable in this game and thinking you’ll control it that way is a mean brain trick. please let’s just euthanize this mythos of the undead cavedweller drawing until its fingers bleed, you’re a grownup and it’s your responsibility to feed yourself and go to bed and remember your friends. drawing shouldn’t have to be this obsessive compulsory activity cause like, i promise you, nobody is hemorrhaging radical work in a sad echo chamber of BO

joobr:

chrissipumpkin:

chelseakenna:

This is an important read for freelancers. I’ve fallen into this trap a LOT lately and it has affected my health.

I’ve since made it a goal to better balance work with the rest of my life. You can’t be productive unless you take care of yourself first.


cuhelski
:

saetje-reference:

juliedillon:

eskiworks:

The Workaholic Pedestal

We freelancers have a tendency to never truly be away from our work, regardless of the time or day of the week.  Especially if like me, your work station is in your home.  We work long hours and dedicate ourselves fully to whatever project we have at hand.  We loose sleep, skip social gatherings, eat whatever is quick and easy so we can get back to work. I have noticed that there is a sense of pride in general among freelancers that we are so in love with our work that we can dedicate ourselves this way.  Passion for your chosen profession is definitely a plus!

However, I have also observed a downside to this part of freelancing.  That dedication can cross the line into an unhealthy workaholic lifestyle, and other freelancers actually encourage it.  There is an underlying unspoken rule in freelancer culture that if you’re not working, you’re slacking.  I’ve seen other freelancers take subtle stabs at their peers for taking time off to see family, to tend to daily life, or to just have a day (or three) to simply BREATHE and do something other than art. Doing things like comparing your work load with others’ work load, making yourself out to be the harder working one.  Referring to things like showering, cooking, and cleaning as “free time” or “vacation”.  It creates or adds to guilt surrounding work, which is really not a nice thing to do to your friends and peers. 

The disclaimer here is that clearly not every freelancer does this, and I think those that do are not being purposefully malicious, so please don’t misread this as an attack.  I’m guilty of playing into this myself, we are just falling into a part of the starving artist stereotype;  The idea that your chosen craft/art must encompass ALL of your being, every day and every moment for you to truly be passionate about it. 

The truth is, there IS life outside of art and work, and it’s not a contest. We are living beings that must eat and sleep, and we are social animals that must have a connection with others.  So not only do we HAVE to do things other than art, but it’s also ok to spend time doing other things that make you happy.  It doesn’t mean you are less passionate about your work, or that other artists who spend more time on theirs love it more.

And yes, there are deadlines we must work under.  But none of us want to be starving artists. None of us enjoy loosing sleep, eating crappy or skipping meals, working our fingers to the bone, letting friendships fall apart…  These are not good things.  You aren’t a cooler or more a passionate artist for making those sacrifices.  So I think instead of putting that lifestyle on a pedestal, we should be encouraging one another to take time to care for ourselves, and to have a life outside of their work. Just like anyone else doing any other kind of work.  =)

YES. Thank you. It makes me really uncomfortable when I hear professionals saying things like “if you are not drawing 24/7 you’ll never make it”, implying that having outside interests or taking care of yourself means you will fail. You undoubtedly need to be dedicated and focused to succeed as a freelancer, but what is the point of having the so-called freedom that freelancing is supposed to provide you if you can’t even leave your desk every once in a while? Exercise, get outside, socialize, have other hobbies. I’ve found I’m more productive and happier and healthier and more passionate about my work and my career when I take time off, every day, to get away from work for a little while. Building a career is important and rewarding, but your life is not comprised solely of the amount of work you are able do. Your life is not defined solely by how many hours you clock at your work desk. 

This mindset is rampant throughout college and even in the professional studio environments too. It’s so sad, I’ve fallen Ill because of it and still have a hard time breaking away. I see many of my peers ruining their bodies and minds too to live up to an ideal of working 24/7.

It feels really relieving to see I’m not alone in this. The guilt of not always feeling inspired. The frenzy of not wanting to let anyone down (especially yourself) can completely break you down. I’ve been beyond fortunate to have some of the most understanding and compassionate bosses ever, so the idea of the letting them is crushing. One of the most valuable things I’ve learned since I started freelancing is to take time for yourself when you need it. Not “when I’m done with this project in 2 months I’ll relax.” Take care of yourselves artist friends. <3

Actual free time (not just eating or showering time) is so important. You’ll be able to work longer and harder if you take frequent breaks.

YOU’RE AN IMPOSTER IF YOU AREN’T ALWAYS DRAWING is such a toxic idea that so many people parrot!!! it’s like running into a really horrible ex-boyfriend EVERYWHERE and you wanna warn people he’s like a cannibalistic harbinger of darkness who decorates his living room with cursed skulls BUT THEY DON’T LISTEN because all the professionals in your chosen field are BEST FRIENDS WITH HIM. constant output is a brutal standard to hold yourself to whether or not you ever manage to meet it! it makes the burnout and anxiety over being burnt out that much worse. it’ll keep you from internalizing success. this is seriously like advice from the mangoat’s big book of handy ways to perpetuate misery.

don’t listen to everything someone says just because they’re a good artist. it doesn’t mean they’ve got their shit together—a person’s lifestyle isn’t always the root of their success and for all you know they’re a broken gollum who lives in a hollowed out log eating nut mites and komodo meat. hard work is important but it’s not the only variable in this game and thinking you’ll control it that way is a mean brain trick. please let’s just euthanize this mythos of the undead cavedweller drawing until its fingers bleed, you’re a grownup and it’s your responsibility to feed yourself and go to bed and remember your friends. drawing shouldn’t have to be this obsessive compulsory activity cause like, i promise you, nobody is hemorrhaging radical work in a sad echo chamber of BO

(thewonderfullurkerofozから)

This is how you lose her.

You lose her when you forget to remember the little things that mean the world to her: the sincerity in a stranger’s voice during a trip to the grocery, the delight of finding something lost or forgotten like a sticker from when she was five, the selflessness of a child giving a part of his meal to another, the scent of new books in the store, the surprise short but honest notes she tucks in her journal and others you could only see if you look closely.

You must remember when she forgets.

You lose her when you don’t notice that she notices everything about you: your use of the proper punctuation that tells her continuation rather than finality, your silence when you’re about to ask a question but you think anything you’re about to say to her would be silly, your mindless humming when it is too quiet, your handwriting when you sign your name in blank sheets of paper, your muted laughter when you are trying to be polite, and more and more of what you are, which you don’t even know about yourself, because she pays attention.

She remembers when you forget.

You lose her for every second you make her feel less and less of the beauty that she is. When you make her feel that she is replaceable. She wants to feel cherished. When you make her feel that you are fleeting. She wants you to stay. When you make her feel inadequate. She wants to know that she is enough and she does not need to change for you, nor for anyone else because she is she and she is beautiful, kind and good.

You must learn her.

You must know the reason why she is silent. You must trace her weakest spots. You must write to her. You must remind her that you are there. You must know how long it takes for her to give up. You must be there to hold her when she is about to.

You must love her because many have tried and failed. And she wants to know that she is worthy to be loved, that she is worthy to be kept.

And, this is how you keep her.

Junot Diaz, This is How You Lose Her (via golden-notes)

like ngl the book hit me really hard

(via -osito)

(yanettkawsaniから)

hellabitcoins:

ilovesmoothjazz1998:

hellabitcoins:

aliwav:

listen you boutta have the thickest smoodie of all time, where is your liquid? your ice? weak ass aesthetics, try again

smh they leave the strawberry tops on… might as well leave the gotdam banana peels on

hellabitcoins
u can eat strawberry tops… &amp; recent studies are showing banana peels are healthy n nutritious for u:…. The turntables

n im sure the outside of a coconut is mad high in fiber but im not bout ta eat woodchips cause of no govermence scienticians

hellabitcoins:

ilovesmoothjazz1998:

hellabitcoins:

aliwav:

listen you boutta have the thickest smoodie of all time, where is your liquid? your ice? weak ass aesthetics, try again

smh they leave the strawberry tops on… might as well leave the gotdam banana peels on

hellabitcoins
u can eat strawberry tops… & recent studies are showing banana peels are healthy n nutritious for u:…. The turntables

n im sure the outside of a coconut is mad high in fiber but im not bout ta eat woodchips cause of no govermence scienticians

(thewonderfullurkerofozから)

匿名ユーザーの発言:: You gotta problem with the bear community? Then fuck you. IT's the most accepting and diverse community out there, educate yourself on it, and stop blindly telling people it' crap.

brattiest-b:

nooooo sisimage

gold-kushkloudz:

the games 

is this not how it&#8217;s supposed to be

gold-kushkloudz:

the games 

is this not how it’s supposed to be

bearhuggr:

indesigncub:

godsavethebutchqueen:

The UnBreakable BeBe DeLuxe!

I dream of being like this

My favorite ever

bearhuggr:

indesigncub:

godsavethebutchqueen:

The UnBreakable BeBe DeLuxe!

I dream of being like this

My favorite ever

(robblerobbleから)

juicylouture:

my goal is to be the ‘we didn’t notice her in highschool but damn we should’ve’ girl

(gwenlightenedから)

Falling in love with yourself first doesn’t make you vain or selfish, it makes you indestructible.
(via elenayogini)

(you-can-just-breatheから)

yollopixqui:


Flores de Xochimilco, Ciudad de México 1960s

Ya no más

yollopixqui:

Flores de Xochimilco, Ciudad de México 1960s

Ya no más

(fuzzbeanzから)

oeste:

do you ever cook something in the microwave but it’s still really cold in the middle and you just keep eating it instead of heating it longer because life is pointless and entropy is unavoidable and the universe is filled with callous and casual destruction

(unslaad-krosisから)

21-year-old in east L.A. Nice to meet you. :)

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